F word thoughts – more than acceptance and a little bit of Kielty

The Forgiveness Project exhibition has concluded at Moortown Baptist Church. It added a dimension to our Easter experience. The stories and pictures were profound and have a deep effect on many.

The words of Jo Berry (daughter of Sir Anthony Berry MP, who was killed in the IRA Brighton bombing) stand out for me. “Now I don’t talk about forgiveness. To say ‘I forgive you’ is almost condescending. It locks you into an ‘us and them’ scenario keeping me right and you wrong. That attitude won’t change anything. But I can experience empathy, and in that moment there is no judgment.” IRA activist Patrick Magee, responsible for Jo’s father’s death, responds – “It’s rare to meet someone as gracious and open as Jo. She’s come a long way in her journey to understanding; in fact, she has come more than half way to meet me.”

We should take care in connecting a theology of forgiveness to these words or linking them to Easter. It seems that forgiveness is at one and the same time and confrontation and a moving forward. To forgive means to name a wrong and a person or institution that needs forgiving. Forgiveness makes a judgment and then seeks to reconcile. Jo Berry sees this and the risk of that act of forgiving setting us apart.

Jo Berry and Patrick Magee are pictured together above.

As a result of this many of us cannot get to the place where we name things and speak forgiveness to another. Rather we show as much love as we can, and we offer acceptance to another. Jo describes that as empathy. This keeps relationship open and is wise and noble but stops short of forgiveness and reconciliation. I honour those of us who practice such empathy, but I recognise that this an ongoing commitment that stops short of forgiveness.

So we discover that forgiveness is a risk. In offering forgiveness, we can make matters worse and lose what we have of a relationship. I believe that this is just such a risk that God was taking in Christ. To meet us more than half way and then confront things that need forgiving in a costly way.

So Christ died! His resurrection showed that this paid off. The cost and possibility of failure was real. It is not that Christ jettisoned acceptance and love, but that Christ chose to add forgiveness to them. In order that God could move beyond empathy to reconciliation.

This is the miraculous hope and truth of Easter. It is dangerous and risky stuff.

In the meantime, many of us travel with acceptance and love on a lifelong journey towards forgiveness. The Easter story tells us that we don’t live in vain. This is a truth and a story for our time. It echoed again as I watched Patrick Kielty’s excellent BBC documentary on Northern Ireland and the Good Friday agreement 20 years on. In it Kielty (right) powerfully explores acceptance, forgiveness and moving on – looking at how difficult and essential these things are. Well worth a watch.

Graham Brownlee, April 2018

Three images that provide a moving commentary to the sadness and the joy of Easter

MBC has many talented members, no more so than our Administrator Kate Slater. And it’s Kate we need to thank for the three amazing windows that were on show over Easter. 

The first two, that’s the two below were on display on Palm Sunday. However, the unveiling of a third, pictured above was reserved for Easter Day. Thanks Kate and to those people from Beacon who helped you; the Easter story has never been so beautifully and so effectively taught.

 

 

After the F Word…forgive me for asking but what should we do next?

In her foreword to the brochure that accompanies The F Word Exhibition,  the founder of the Forgiveness Project, Marina Cantacuzino, says this…

“The stories aim to open up a debate around forgiveness, calling into question our often fixed beliefs about right and wrong, good and evil, justice and morality. Forgiveness is not held up as a magic bullet or a panacea for all ills. Rather, the stories reveal the journey to be tough but compelling, often painful and costly but also potentially transformative.”

I don’t know about you but I find these words almost as compelling as the exhibition itself. That’s why I believe it would be a huge waste of precious resources if as a church we now simply move on having, as it were, ticked forgiveness off our to do list. 

In itself, what form such debate takes isn’t important; what is important is that it actually takes place. Perhaps it could be accommodated within something quite structured, say through a half day conference. It could be a one off topic for discussion at House Groups (some I believe have already started down this road) or it might be something much more personal, maybe something you and I could chat about over a coffee.

Having now made these suggestions my only fear is that if we all get too hung up on the subject of forgiveness this may give oxygen to a quite worrying remark I recently heard; that whilst it’s right that every church has a hospital wing, what we must at all coats avoid is turning the whole church into a hospital. In other words concentrating so much on just one or two “blue light” type elements of what it means to be part of a community that seeks to love God, live generously and follow Christ that any number of competing issues risk being eased into the background.  

I appreciate that throughout much of Lent our Sunday morning sermons have been all about forgiveness, which for some might well mean that enough is enough. But today with The F Word exhibition boards now carefully packed away I think it would be foolish if as Marina Cantacuzino suggests we didn’t take this opportunity to create some time and some space for debate, some time and some space to unpack and share our reflections, our personal beliefs about forgiveness and what it is that forms them, and if we feel we need to even our experiences.   

John Sherbourne 

 

 

 

PULSE – a message from Cas to all team, parents and carers

Parents: Our Pulse groups on Sunday mornings are going really well, and we would love to help you engage as a family. To this end you can download a free app called parent cue which will keep you up to date with everything your children are learning about and experiencing.   

Likewise for leaders: Thank you to all the leaders and helpers that make Pulse happen. To help you there is also a free app, this one is called lead small  from which you can download all the small group material direct to your mobile phone.

To help you to download either of these apps simply click on the relevant link above or visit the websites listed below.

http://theparentcue.org/app/

 http://leadsmall.org/app/

Notes of a Meeting on Dunstarn Lane. By Haddon Willmer

Last summer, a green leaf danced in the wind

turned gold and red

Fall came, it fell

rain soaked through winter

imprinting on the pavement – till

a silver star….

…..waiting,

waiting for the poor man who once found a sixpence on the road

and thereafter, anxious for another coin,

never saw a star again…until

one came down to meet his eye

shaking his obsession.

Palm Sunday – The F Word, two “new” windows and lots lots more

If the old adage is right and variety is the spice of life then Palm Sunday at MBC really was a hot place to be. Musically it started with a hymn composed in 1905 and an hour and a half later finished with a lusty, impromptu rendering of an upbeat children’s chorus. In between came a Service packed with challenge.  

Guest speaker Sue Barclay urged us to use Holy Week as a time for action, a time when rather than standing still and watching the procession we move towards Easter Day with courage and commitment’ 

At our windows we had two new panels, with a third which will be opened on Easter Sunday deliberately hidden behind a blind.

Our children came in from PULSE to share stories of how over the last three Sundays they had focused on making and keeping the peace. But of the course the most obvious element was the appearance of a dozen or so display stands each holding a true life story which when read takes both your understanding and your appreciation of forgiveness to a whole new level. 

THE F WORD: Stories of Forgiveness is the brainchild of journalist Marina Cantacuzino and photographer Brian Moody who in January 2004, tired of a climate where revenge and retaliation dominated the headlines, resolved to present the public with an alternative view. The result, a powerful photographic exhibition exploring the idea of forgiveness in the face of atrocity and telling the stories of victims as well as perpetrators. 

Travelling to places including the United States, South Africa, Northern Ireland, Romania, Rwanda, Israel and Palestine, as well as the UK, Cantacuzino and Moody collected stories from people whose lives had been shattered by violence, tragedy and injustice – and who had chosen to take the challenging and often painful journey towards forgiveness.

The exhibition’s subjects include Eva Kor, a survivor of the medical experiments carried out by Dr Josef Mengele in Auschwitz; Pat Magee, the man behind the IRA Brighton bomb and Jo Berry, whose father was killed in the blast; Linda Biehl, whose daughter was killed in South Africa and now works alongside her daughter’s killers; and Andrew Rice, whose brother David was killed in the World Trade Center bombing.

If you get chance please call in and visit the exhibition. It’s open every day right up until and including Easter Sunday from 12 noon until 3pm and then again every evening between 7pm and 9. 

Below is a gallery of pictures taken during our Palm Sunday Service. To view a larger version simply click on the image. 

  

 

Moortots presents yet another angle on the subject of forgiveness

When you’re trying to get to grips with the concept of forgiveness quite where Scruffy, a rag tag hound with floppy ears and face paint whiskers come in I’m not at all sure. But last week, in a role shared by Diane Sunter and John Sherbourne Scruffy was the star of three Moortots Easter celebrations which focused on saying sorry, forgiving and moving on.

Let me explain. Scruffy, like most dogs is a bit mischievous and when top toddlers Diane Towns and Pauline Bridle are setting up a special party he/she just can’t keep his/her nose out. The result is exactly as you would expect with food everywhere, drink spilled, toy boxes upturned and a even cream cake coming into extremely close contact with one unsuspecting guest’s face. 

Suitably riled Diane first of all scolds and then threatens to cart Scruffy off to a dog’s home, a ploy that draws lots of aaaghs from toddlers, mums, dads, grandmas alike. However, when peacemaker Pauline steps in and asks Diane if she’s never been a bit naughty and had to be forgiven the tide turns and before you can shout walkies everyone including the fore mentioned toddlers, mums, dads, grandmas are not only the best of friends but are dancing round the room like a badly rehearsed West End chorus. 

Moortots’ “Specials” really are exactly that. OK so sometimes you might have to dig deep to find any neat theology but to be able to engage so many people (over the three sessions that’s round about a hundred and fifty) in such an accessible way with the notion of forgiveness is marvelous. 

Well done Diane T, Pauline, Diane S, John and all the rest of the Moortots team you did a brilliant job.

    

 

REWIND to Easter 2018

Two weeks ago our Children’s Worker Cas Stoodley put out an urgent appeal for people to join our Rewind to Easter team. This evening (Wednesday March 7)  as we look back over the last two days we once again wonder at how a simple request (accompanied of course by a bucket load of prayer) came good. 

This year we played host to just over four hundred Year 5 pupils from more than a dozen local Primary Schools. Our message was simple: what you see and hear is what we, as Christians, believe Easter to be all about. 

As usual Rewind was a fast moving mix of drama, games, video and craft. It was also John Sherbourne’s last time as Cas’ up-front foil. Fast approaching seventy John has decided that before someone tells him that there’s no fool like an old fool it’s time to hand over the mic to someone younger; although he assures us he will be one of the first to put his name down for a less demanding role when in seven months time Cas starts asking for volunteers for Rewind to Christmas. 

Rewind – both to Easter and to Christmas is something MBC should take pride in. With so many schools seemingly placing less and less importance on the teaching of core Christian traditions it’s not just a pleasure, it’s an absolute necessity that MBC continues to run this amazing project.     

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